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He Expects Me To Be A Porn Star, Right Out The Gate: An Advice Question

Hello Zane, I would like to thank you in advance for taking the time to read this e-mail. I am a 26 year old woman who has become involved with my ex-boyfriend again. We went out on a couple of dates and hung out a couple of times, and we really enjoyed each others company. I finally decided to have my first sexual encounter with him, as we never had sex while we were in a relationship previously; he does not know that I am not that experienced sexually. I have realized that every time that I have gotten to the point of having sex, I hold back a lot because I am paranoid on how it may end. I think that I am somewhat conditioned to believe that all men are assholes, I know this is not true, but I can't help it and I feel like it is ruining my sex life. We finally did have sex, and unfortunately he decided to send his cousin a text message saying that I gave "horrible head" and that I kept on saying that he was big. When in reality I have not had th

A Sexless Relationship: An Advice Question

Hi Zane, I'm writing to you in order to get your advice on this situation. A little about myself; I'm a 32year old female in the Washington DC area. I met this older guy 15yrs my senior; we've been dating for almost one year now. The problem I have, he's not giving me sex. When we first met it was boom, bam, pow and now our sex life is dead. We spend almost everyday together he stays at my house very frequently, we go out town, go on various dates, he cooks dinner for me I mean we do almost everything together besides have sex. Throughout this almost past year we have had a lot of ups and downs on various occasion but through it all we're still dating and everything is going great now. We've actually become more closer now then before. He say's that he thinks sex will put a dim on our friendship and we may end up back in the same situation as before. He thinks my feelings got emotionally attached to soon while having a sexual relationship in which caused